It’s 10 AM and you’re starting to get to work on mid-shift. As you shampoo your hair, you’ve been rehearsing the flow of your conference call scheduled today with the clients overseas. You’ll be coming to the office earlier because you need to prepare for a bunch of meetings happening today. This is just one of the typical day of a workaholic woman who spent her years building her career path in the corporate world.
A hot coffee in a mug, a laptop, and a small notebook on the table, on a busy day. A life full of challenges at work and then booom! Suddenly, you’re a mom! Wooaahh! I don’t think there’s more life-changing than transforming from being a career woman to motherhood.
Along the way, there will be lots of new things in your daily life. You need to prepare for giving birth while taking care of yourself. For some, they need to quit working for health reasons and become a full-time housewife. With all of these things happening so fast every day, one day you might think that you’re feeling overwhelmed and are already exhausted. But don’t worry mom, we can’t just let that happen. So here’s a shortlist you can check out to cope up with the transition.
I. Get Enough Support
In this bullet, we’re not just talking about money but rather mental and physical support. It’s already exhausting to think of all the drastic changes in a woman’s life, so you need your family in terms of the dos and don’ts of pregnancy until you give birth. Your husband’s presence also plays an important role in overcoming these challenges as he will be your partner in raising your child. He can change shift with you in babysitting at night while you take your rest, and or prepare the food and other household chores for you. In this way, your body can gradually adjust to the environment and the needed energy in taking care of the baby. We already know the risks involve in giving birth such as post-partum depression, that’s why family support is vital in the process.
II. Be Financially Prepared
You cannot just be mentally and physically prepared but most importantly, in the financial aspect. In this generation, we cannot afford to have a baby if we cannot provide. Raising a child means a lot of cash outflows. And by that, I meant that you will need money to purchase your baby’s needs, from the first day of your pregnancy (vitamins, checkups, etc), to giving birth until they finish their education and is ready to face the world themselves. Although there are insurances such as health and education, we still have to save for other needs (and wants! haha). Insurances and savings accounts might help but aren’t enough to sustain the lifestyle you wish for your family. You can invest your savings in several money markets for future gains (which only a few knows). As the saying goes, “Do not work for money, instead, let your money work for you”, which means to invest your money now and let it grow over time. We never know, in few years, you’ll not only be able to buy that dream car but your dream house as well! Financial markets are one way to reach that goal. Luckily, there are tons of it: bonds, stock market, mutual funds, to name a few. You can check http://www.colfinancial.com to know more about it. After all, who wouldn’t want a spontaneous childhood for their little ones?
III. Never Stop Learning
Being a wife and a mother is already tiring for a normal day. Which part of the day will you schedule your long-time plan of baking class? Dancing class? Yoga class? Masteral degree? “Do I still need it?”, you might ask yourself. Well, guess what mommy, this is just the sign you’ve been waiting for! Yes, yes, yes! You need them! This is for your personal growth because you knew it inside yourself, there’s more you can do. There are so many support groups for moms out there like FHMOMS on Facebook or websites like Smartparenting.com, where you can get a lot of exciting tips about motherhood, learning programs, and career opportunities. So mom, get out of that comfort zone now and start planning your productive day!
IV. Love Yourself
Moms tend to forget about themselves once they began taking care of the family. They are often left out of the family’s priority, hence, they became “losyang” as what some husbands commonly call them. Now, women opt to choose the new trend, from which they do what men can get – thus, gender equality. It takes more effort to be blooming yet so rewarding. Don’t be guilty for loving yourself. Just as fine as your husband go out with his friends, it’s always and will always be okay to have a manicure/pedicure or get your hair done at your favorite salon, shopping, mountain climbing, getting a massage at the spa, or dine out with your friends occasionally. It’s up to you how you choose to have your quiet time, either indoor or outdoor activities. For some couples, talk it out and agree to have their day-off once in a while to recharge and relax. Despite your very much busy schedule, you still have to find time for yourself, your “ME” time.
As you go along, just enjoy your journey. From those bunch of meetings to bunch of laundries, from workload to household chores, from teammates to baby and hubby. Remember mom, your life doesn’t stop from being a mother, but rather, it’s just the beginning of your new chapter as a woman! At the end of the day, whatever the case, we all wanted to be an amazing mom and still have that fulfilling “strong independent woman” feels. Keep going, mom!