Don’t look at it like it’s forever
It will get easier tomorrow, or maybe next week, next month it will get easier.
I always tell that to myself, things will change.
Life with my toddler and my second son on the way felt exhausting. At nine months pregnant, I worried about how I was going to manage it all with two kids when keeping up with life with just one child felt so challenging. With no nanny and family around us.
There are a lot of questions running in my mind, plus a lot of emotions, happiness, worries, fears. How can I taking care of them, all of the household chores? Can I do it by myself?
When my partner leaves for work. I need to drop off and picks up my daughter at school with my baby boy with me. While my daughter is in school and my baby boy still sleeping it’s the time I’m doing my household chores very quickly. I know no one will do it and I don’t have a choice so I just enjoy every moment, every moment of a sleepless night, changing countless diapers, reading books, cleaning endless messes, making up silly songs to entertain, cooking food constantly, managing the family’s time, finances, and home. Researching different ways of teaching and learning.
Washing clothes, folding clothes. Sweeping floors. Loading up strollers and diaper bags.
Washing baby bottles, locating lost snacks. Paying bills on time and a lot more. I realized being a stay at home mom is the best job in the world and the toughest job at the same time , and the best part is when they look and just smile or stares because they know you are their person. Like nobody else is as important as you. They know that you have them like nobody else ever will. They know that they are protected. I always said to my self that I am lucky because I have an opportunity to stay at home with my kids to look after them and I always cherish every moment with my kids because I know I will never have the day with them again, and tomorrow they will be a little bit older than they are today. I know that one day they will have their world, they will be all grown up and have their friends and things to do.
And thank God, by his guide and protection. We made it this far. My kids are both in grade school. And it’s getting easier now, although I am still hands on to them especially in their school activities. And at the same time, I have some me-time now, I can do a short workout and managing a small business.
Thank you to my partner for being a responsible daddy to our kids, he always reminds me of my worth. When he arrives from work, he always asks about my day. We switch off entertaining the kids, and we talk about our workdays. He’s always interested in hearing about the silly things our daughter said and the new toys our son likes, and he praises me for the work I did being a mom.
So to all the moms out there who go to bed not knowing how they will get up and do it all again the next day:
We are allowed to not be okay.
We are allowed to ask for help.
We don’t need to do this alone.
We are good enough.
The worrying doesn’t disappear—but what you worry about does.
Always remember that
We are an extraordinary person, which makes us an extraordinary mother.
We are patient. We are loving. We exude calm and compassion.
I know there will be difficult days that will test us, and knowing how beautifully we mother our babies.
We will come out winning.