“What should I do with my life? I don’t know what to do with my life… “
- There have been many times in my life where I have been stuck and not known what to do next. I have agonized over what I should do or not do and whether I was making the right choices.
“It doesn’t interest me what you do for a living. I want to know what you ache for, and if you dare to dream of meeting your heart’s longing. It doesn’t interest me how old you are. I want to know if you will risk looking like a fool for love, for your dream, for the adventure of being alive”. – Oriah Mountain Dreamer
This state of not knowing what to do next applies to all of us, at any age and at different stages of our lives.
Whether we are heading off to university, graduating, choosing our career path, recovering from a heart break, being made redundant, or entering into retirement, we all have a point in our lives where we don’t know what to do next.
The answers or solutions we seek vary according to where we are at in our lives.
A young graduate will focus on answering this question in relation to their future and choosing the right career. A person entering into retirement will ask the question in the hope of doing something that has value in their life; and a young mother recently divorced will be asking this question in the hope that she can find an answer that will enable her to survive another day.
Personally, I have discovered that following these 5 steps will help you to find out what to do with your life:
Put Your Running Shoes on and Clear Your Mind
1. Put Your Running Shoes on and Clear Your Mind
“Not knowing what you want is a lot better than knowing exactly what you want but not being able to get it, at least you have hope.”
At one time in my life, that was very challenging and emotional; all I could do was think about what I needed to do to get to the next day.
There were no thoughts of what I wanted to do in the future nor were there any thoughts of how I wanted my life to be. It was just a matter of surviving from one day to the next.
For me, during this challenging time, exercise was the solution to helping me get through my day.
Every morning my alarm would go off at 6am. I would have my running gear ready by the bed, I would get dressed, walk out the door and start running for 45 minutes. I would come back from my run, have a shower and my protein shake, then wait for the kids to wake up and my day would begin.
After a few months, I began to realize that when I started my run, I would feel terrible and then when I got to the end of my street I would start feeling better and the sick feeling in my stomach would disappear.
Recently, I was talking to a healer about how I survived my life challenges. She said that exercise was one of the best ways to dissipate the emotional pain that we feel and hold in our bodies.
Take Action to Wake up Your Conscious Mind
“Nobody is going to do your life for you. And you have to do it no matter what is true. No matter what is hard. You can make the choice to drive down it. It’s up to you to decide to stay parked there or to turn around and drive out” — Cheryl Stryed.
I couldn’t see a future for myself and I didn’t know who I was or what I wanted. Making a decision as to what to do with my life was impossible.
This was the hardest part for me, figuring out what I wanted, what I loved to do and how to be me or even believe in me.
I remember reading somewhere that if we have to make important decisions or choices in our lives, we can become overwhelmed. And so we choose to do nothing – it’s just too hard.
I was confused, conflicted and I had no hope.
My conscious mind was wanting solutions that were practical and safe, however my heart, well it wanted to follow my dreams.
It is hard to follow your heart, to overcome your limiting self beliefs and find your power. However, you can do it and it all comes down to taking action to change.
Seek the Wisdom and Knowledge of Others Who Have Been There Before
“The more extensive a man’s knowledge of what has been done, the greater will be his power of knowing what to do” — Benjamin Disraeli
I like to read other people’s stories about how they lived their lives, their life philosophies and how they overcame their challenges in life.
I find that their stories inspire and motivate me, especially when I am unsure about what to do next in my life. These stories helped me to build my knowledge base. Then I could sort out the confusion in my mind and in my heart, as to what I should do next.
Do Whatever It Takes to Get to Know YOU
“In any moment of decision, the best thing you can do is the right thing, the next best thing is the wrong thing, and the worst thing you can do is nothing.” — Theodore Roosevelt.
Find out who you are, what your passions are and what you want to do with your life. This strategy is closely aligned to Strategy 2, in that you have to know who you are in order to Wake Up Your Conscious Mind.
To move forward, you have to let go of your past and embrace change. With change comes reinvention. If you don’t know who you are and what you want, it makes it a lot harder to move forward in your life.
Having a Life Vision, knowing your purpose and how you want to live your life are the foundations to building belief in yourself, your confidence, resilience, courage and accountability.
There will be times in your life where you may not know what to do next, or you will make the wrong decision and that is okay.
With a purpose and a vision when these situations occur, you won’t be paralyzed by the fear of not knowing what to do; you will seize it as an opportunity to experience life.
If it doesn’t work out, that’s still okay because you will be empowered to make another choice.
If you don’t know what to do with your life, consider these strategies I have shared.It is a tough journey but it is also rewarding, in that you will discover your life purpose and find your passion. You will know what you need to do in your life and the actions you need to take to go there.
Written by : Cecile Dangaran