Time and distance don’t mean anything when i know we will embrace and hold each other again.
They say Seafarer’s Wife is the Woman Behind a Successful Life at Sea.
A mariner’s wife ardently takes up various jobs as part of her duty, which often requires coping with emotional ups and downs while their husbands are away, socialising with vexing relatives, handling household jobs, and if situation requires, taking up matters with ministries, governments and embassies to bring their spouses back home. In unfortunate events wherein seafarers have been stuck in foreign ports or went through unfortunate accident, the spouses and family of these seafarers have stood by them, showing great courage, patience, and grit in rescuing their loved-ones.
A seafarer’s wife has to go through a variety of issues both when on land and at sea, the main among them being:
Parenting: One of the biggest and arduous challenges a seafarer’s wife has to undertake is parenting and looking after the well being of children when their father is away at sea. She assumes sole powers and responsibility regarding the education and grooming of children at each and every stage, right from exhaustive infant care to handling needs of emotionally demanding teenagers. Mapping their progress at every level and passing through testing times when a child needs medical, moral and emotional support, a seafarer’s wife single handedly manages a variety of issues, showing great determination and courage.
Loneliness: Though the wives of seafarers find ample opportunities to keep themselves busy, solitude always prevails and often makes them feel feeble (mostly emotionally) in presence of their social counterparts. Perpetually they are bold enough to overcome and continue supporting their spouses, but dealing with badly timed questions from relatives and friends regarding married life and their concern about upbringing of children, family issues, managing household jobs etc. sometimes do take toll on their mental and physical health. However, the ease with which a mariner’s wife deals with these stumbling blocks is commendable.
Household Errands: The absence of husband puts a mariners wife on the forefront to fulfil countless household tasks such as paying bills, settling repairs, decorating interiors, managing finances and investments on behalf of mariner husbands, not to forget the formal socialising as well. In case of joint families (still prevalent in several parts of the world) she is also required to look after parents of both her’s and her husband’s. More often than not, this also includes attending and supporting their medical care and daily needs. With due span of time, a mariner’s wife inculcates enough resolve and mettle to cope up with and fulfil the needs hovering around herself.
While Onboard: Even while sailing onboard ships, accompanying their husbands, a mariner’s wife is required to exercise restraint and discipline. Apart from infrequent shore leaves and parties on board, she has to regularly attend drills, cope up with frozen foods, comply with meal timings, and follow safety instructions at various work areas. Moreover, onboard they have limited access and areas to keep themselves engaged, which can take a toll on them if the vessel is on long voyages.
Baby Jane Malunjao