Covid-19 forced everyone in the confinement of their own home. Limited to do a lot of things that we are used to.
Some are doing just fine as if nothing changed in their everyday life, some are just winging it day by day, and some just can’t get a hold of it as if they are going crazy from staying at home. At this time all points are valid. Everyone has their battles. As for me, I tried to see things from a different perspective.
To clear things up I’m not downplaying this crisis. Everyone is affected at every level possible. I made a fair share of following all the necessary precautions that the government tells us every day.
But whatever we do in life there will be an effect either negative or positive. Instead of being tied up to all the gloom and doom of news regarding world pandemic. I chose to see the positive.
Here are some of the positive things I found in the middle of this pandemic.
- A newfound respect for my husband’s work.
Pre-quarantine my husband and I always talk about his day at the office when he comes home. But it’s not like we go down deeper into details may be partly because we are trying to apply a work-life balance inside our home. I feel the stress that he had on some days and I don’t want to add up more by asking him too many things about it. Him leaving work related matters in the office is one of the things I admire about him. He knows when to become a provider and when to become a husband and a father. When the work-from-home is implemented, I see him 5 times a week doing his job. It’s more complicated and under pressure than a typical 9 to 5 job. Even though I still don’t fully understand what he is doing, though frustrated sometimes, he still manages to end his shift with integrity and honesty completing all his tasks. They say integrity is doing the right thing, even when no one is watching is very true especially in a work-from-home set-up. My husband is a testament to that. He has an utmost respect for the job that pays our bills. It made an impact on me how sincere my husband is in his work. That’s when I knew I found a newfound respect for my husband in his chosen career.
- My son is finally potty trained.
It is long overdue in teaching my 3-year-old son how to pee and poop in the toilet. I know all kids are unique in their ways, I have 3 kids with 3 different personalities. But with this diaper-wearing thing, this is mostly me because I did not put any effort to introduce him in potty training. Partly I can’t squeeze time to fully “focus” in training him and partly in my mind, I’m going to take the “he’ll be ready when he’s ready” route. And to be honest, my son is a bit of a late talker. He excels in other stuff but he is slow in talking. That is mainly the reason I don’t want to push him in telling him what he should be doing. But I was wrong. When everything stopped for a moment due to Covid19, momentarily I also stopped and re-evaluate my parenting style with my son. I get down on his level, figure out what interests him, then I try to incorporate it into what I want to teach him. Little did I know he is very much ready to let go of his diaper. In one try he fully understands me and follows precisely the instructions that I told him. There’s still mishaps but we don’t sweat the little things, my son needs a pat on his back. I’m not grateful for Covid19. I am grateful that I stopped for a while and found some positive effects on my parenting.
- It’s never too late to have a new passion and purpose.
I have been a full-time housewife and mother for 7 years. It’s the same year of my wedding and the year when I give birth to my eldest. I never had time to think about other stuff aside from being a wife and a mother. It’s not that I slack or did not have any dream for myself but as time passed by, the joy and challenges of parenting and being a wife consumed me. I’ve been thinking and praying for a while now about venturing into a part-time business or job. I wanted to have something that I can offer in our family’s finances but not compromising my time for my husband and my kids. I also wanted something that I can call my own but not sacrificing something precious of my own. Then the order of lockdown was announced. At first, I thought I just needed to postpone (again) my plans to focus on what needs to be done because of the lockdown. My mind went haywire as I’m trying to figure out what our family will be facing during the lockdown. But God is faithful even if we are not. When He puts something in your heart He will have ways to put it into real life. I happened to stumble upon FHMoms. It is a community of Filipino seasoned and aspiring home-based workers all over the world. As I read almost all posts regarding how they start and become successful it fuels something in my heart. I realized this is what I’ve been praying. A job that doesn’t require you to be away from your family. This is the new journey that I want to take. After doing research, watching webinars, reading inspiring posts. I knew I found a new passion and purpose in my life without sacrificing my first purpose, my first love which is my family.
Sooner or later, LIFE will throw you a curveball. Sometimes it doesn’t go the way we planned. Oftentimes what initially seems like a disaster might end up being the best thing that ever happened to us. It’s just a matter of how we see it and how we react to it.
It’s either we break us or make us.
I chose the latter.
Whatever situation you are right now, I hope that you will find positive things even in the littlest form of it.
“Life perspective is the way people see life, including the way they approach life, and all there is in their personal experience.”
ERIKA PAULA SAURO-YAMCO