In this life we will never truly be apart, for we grew to the same beat of our mother’s heart. -DaphnFandrich
In reality raising twins is very tough. There are more factors to double it. From babies needs to multitasking activities at home. But all these are worth it they double the fun and love that will give to us. These are some practical tips on how to raise twins.
- Buying twins stuff and others
In buying twin babies need we need to be practical. Buying things which they are not needed is a waste of money, babies stuff is all cute but we consider we need to buy it in double. But if you have sisters or friend that offered some stuff for babies or you just got in your baby shower is a plus.” Twinning’s” in clothes sometimes are cute but sometimes are not because twins are much alike but they have different taste and attitude. As they grow older it become more different especially in buying toys, clothes, shoes and others.
- Twins will be sync with each other
From the mother’s womb up to the time that they born twins are always together. There are no dull moments with them. When they are sick, if someone is sick the other twins will follow. I don’t know if there’s a scientific basis but as I experienced with my twins it is always the same scenario. They took care of each other’s need and wants.
As a mother I don’t want to compare them. I know what is their abilities and skills as individual. I want them to be independent by their own ways. We can’t stop other people’s sayings and comments about comparing each of them behavior. It may lead them to misbehavior and frustrations rather encourage them to do their best way.
- The Supermom
Taking care of twins is very stressful and exhausted. Feeding, took them a bath, nap time sleep and other household chores at same time is a very tiring the whole day. As a mom you need to have a patience to conquer all. Always look on the positive side that your children need you. Yes, it’s okay not to be okay, it’s okay to cry, it’s okay to go in the bathroom in a silent mode, it’s okay to release the anxiety and stress. All of this will help a lot to face the reality again. We are mom, we are human too.
Tantrums are the most common in children and how can we handle this. Twins are the hardest part if they cried and fight together. I had a very long journey and patience on how to deal with it. The more favorable attention they get for a desired behavior, the more likely to do it again. Take away a privilege and put him in a timeout if necessary. But save time-outs for harmful behavior; the more you use them, the less effective they become. When the time comes that they are calmed this is the best way to start conversation and talk to them without yelling.
There’s no perfect mother but as long as you give your best and you know your doing the right for them..
I’m so thankful to have such a wonderful healthy boy twins. There’s a rough roads but still it become smooth if we try to handle this. As they getting older I’m happy right now that they’re taking care with each other and they are always together. I hope when I get older it looks the same way. No matter what happen mommy will always here beside you!