When I became a single mom, I was full of fears. Fear of how to raise the child alone, fear of being not enough, always comparing with those two-parent family, fear of getting sick for no one will take good care of my child, fear of being able to provide us a good life, being pitied by other people, fear that I won’t find love again and most of all, the fear of my child thinking badly about me and marriage. But through the years all those fears and negativities gradually disappeared. I have found out that being a single mom isn’t just about difficulties. It comes with a lot of perks too.
Let me share some of them with you.
1. I have full authority in parenting decisions.
No one will question my authority over my child. I’m in charge of what we do. When my daughter tells me that she wants to go to the park, then we do it. When I discipline her for the wrong that she did no one will contradict me.
2. Undivided attention
As a child of a single mom, my daughter gets all my undivided attention. She doesn’t have to worry and feel jealous over my attention being divided. All my love and attention are her alone just like how her love and attention are also devoted to me.
3. Bragging rights.
When you are a single parent, you are the reason for your child’s success. Everything she’s learned was from me.
4. Independent from others.
You do everything. Make decisions about everything. You are a great time manager to make time and do everything on your own. Even if you don’t have someone to help you, you will still be able to do it on your own.
So whether you are a single mom or not, I salute you for bringing out the best in everything that you do. For being the best mother your children could ever ask for. Cheers!