“It’s impossible to be a perfect mother, but there are a million ways to be a good one.” – Unknown
“How easy/hard would it be? Am I ready to take these responsibilities? Am I doing the right decision? What if I can’t be a good mother to my child? What if….”
These are some of the questions might have crossed on your mind when you knew that you are going to be a mother. You can’t blame a first-time mom for this. Some would feel nervous because they have no idea on how it is supposed to be a mother to their children. Some are excited, mixed emotions for they can’t even wait to see their child. Some are seeking advises from the elderly. But the main question is,
“Paano ba ang maging isang Ina? Ano ba dapat at hindi dapat gawin?”
Well, let me share my experiences to you mommies! I am also a first-time mom, but guess what? I’ve learned a lot from being a mother to my one and only daughter. So, here are some tips that might be helpful for you.
CHERISH EVERY MOMENT
There is nothing in this world that could ever change how I feel after I gave birth to my daughter. Finally! After 9 months of carrying her into my womb, it’s priceless and all worth it! From her first cry, it such a wonderful and magical sound to my ears. Until I finally touch and carry her into my hands, I’m speechless. I’m having a tear of joy! Wow! Believe me, that was the greatest achievement in my life. I am so blessed and thankful to God for giving this little cute angel of mine that could give colors to my life.
Cherish every moment in your life. Most especially the time that you finally became a MOTHER in this world. Why? Because it is a sign that you are a strong woman whom once face her fear in this world. These memories are golden, irreplaceable, and no one can steal that to you. Believe me, someday you can actually share this best experience in your life to your children and make them realize how wonderful and magical life has. Things may change, but the memories last forever.
MOTHER’S KNOWS BEST
Being a first-time mom can actually feel scary. Why? Because it’s just like driving for first-time on a dark road and you don’t know where to go. Keep calm mommies. It is actually normal because it is your first-time! Luckily, we have this so called “Superhero without cape”, our best friend and mentor, our MOTHER. And yes, they are superhero because they are just one call away to help us in. They gave birth to us, they even guided us in every decision we made in life, taught us how to be strong and independent woman that we can be, all the hardships she made, they surpassed it!
To all mommies out there, we are so blessed because we have our mother to help and guide us in this journey. Ask her about everything, she knows it! “WALANG INA ANG GUSTONG MAPAHAMAK ANG KANYANG SARILING ANAK”. Mother’s knows best. You’re on the right person mommy! If we want to be the best version of a mother to our children, don’t hesitate to ask her for some advices and tips. And from that, someday on your life you will realize that “GANITO PALA ANG PAGIGING ISANG INA”. Yes, at first, you would find it hard, but it’s priceless. What are we experiencing right now is actually what our mother experienced before to us. Never forget the sacrifices that they did. Express your love to them by saying THANK YOU, because without them you are nothing. THANK YOU FOR EVERYTHING MOTHER. I LOVE YOU SO MUCH!
PATIENCE IS A VIRTUE
Yes, you red it right. As your child grows, it requires a lot of patience in understanding them. Mood swings, tantrums are some of the things that you may encounter as your child grows. But don’t worry, it is normal in their growing up stage and a part of their childhood. We know to ourselves that back when we are a kid, we are once called “PASAWAY” to our parents. They’ve got a lot of patience with us before. Imagine that! Even though we are a stubborn one, our parents discipline us in a proper way.
If you are a mother of a toddler, (we all know that SOME toddlers are so “makulit”), take this little advice on how to discipline them properly.
- Do not shout at them, instead talk them in a nicer way so that they would understand your point.
- Practice teaching the Do’s and Don’ts to them. As early at their young age, they would easily understand and apply it to their self while they are growing up.
- If they commit mistakes, do not scold at them. Explain to them what happened and what they need to do in that situation. In that case, it would be easy for them to understand and will never do it again.
So, whenever you encounter these situations, you need to calm down first. Remember, they are our children and we should not let our bare hands hurt them because whatever you do to them, they would probably do the same thing. Disciplinary actions do not always mean that you need to hurt somebody just to let them learn from their mistakes. In everything you do, always remember the “Golden Rule”.
TIME IS GOLD
Tik-Tok-Tik-Tok-Tik-Tok…… your time is running!! Time is the most precious thing that any parents can give to their children. It is not a valid reason that you are BUSY that’s why you cannot spend time with them. Wake up! It is important to have quality time with them in this fast-paced world. There are a lot of things which could actually spend your time with them. We can play with them, eat with them, watch movies, go to malls and so on. You only need to take your phone down, and give your full attention to your children. Take an action to do it! Do not take that for granted. Stay at home moms are so lucky because we can have a whole day bonding with our children.
Simple things mean a lot to them. Happiness doesn’t always require a lot of money. Trust me, spending time is also showing how much we really love them. As a mom, we are willing to give or do what’s best for our precious ones. Give your time to them while they are still young, because once they get older, you would probably be going to miss the moment where you two are spending time to each other. Time is running and our children are growing. Let’s take chance before it’s too late.
At the end of the day, it is you who will decide and create your own version of being a MOTHER. It doesn’t matter if it is your first time, the important is you fulfill the duty of being a good mother to your child/children by loving and taking care of them without any excuses. We always want the best for them, through thick and thin, we are willing to take the risk. Every mother has done so much sacrifices for her children, but her unconditional love is ENDLESS AND UNSELFISH.
Angelica A. Gumilao