Perfect Wedding: Expectation vs Reality


It’s not just about tying the knot but keeping the knot tight.” -Unknown

Weddings come only once in our lifetime. It is a very special day for both husband and wife. Couples spend days, months and even years just to have the perfect wedding anyone could ever dream of. But what is really a perfect wedding?

My name is Lucille and I was 22 when I got married with my husband. I’m from Bohol and he’s from Samar so we have this long-distance relationship. We have been together for almost 2 years. We had big plans about our career and how we wanted to help our families.  But then, an unexpected blessing arrived in a surprise. I was 8 weeks pregnant when I discovered it, June 2018. We disappointed our families in some ways but later on accepted it. My husband made a promise that he will marry me as soon as possible and not to ask even a single peso from our families. So he did. We both did so just after 3 weeks, he texted me that he already has enough money for our wedding, August 2018. I searched for the best venue, coordinator, photographer, videographer, catering and event management services until I came across this page which has a very nice marketing strategy. I scanned through the photos and realized the weddings he organized were very beautiful. Because I was pregnant, I want to have a full package wedding so that it would be easy for me.

For a 400K wedding budget, you would really expect a lot on this since it is a big amount of money. We only had less than 2 months for the preparation but he assured me that he can do it. On the day of the wedding, it was very challenging and stressful for me. I hired a make-up artist on the spot because they only brought 2 make up artists for the whole entourage, team of photographers and videographers week before because theirs were unprofessional and a very devastating church decoration. There was no red carpet, no arch entrance, flowers used were plastic and very unorganized. This was far from what we have agreed. The worse, he did not come on my wedding day. My coordinator just sent his people while he spent his time with his boyfriend. Yes he’s gay and later we discovered that he was a drug addict. Thank you to our wedding host because she made the guests laughed and smiled a lot during our reception.

This was how our church ceremony looked like, no red carpet, no arch entrance and the flowers used were made in plastic. They even decorated it 30 minutes before the wedding.
I was trying to compose myself here. I don’t really know what I should cry about. Cry because I can see my husband near the altar or cry because of the church decor.
At least our reception venue was already a nice one so it didn’t look that bad after all.

But as they say, “It’s not just about tying the knot but keeping the knot tight.” I always think on the positive side of everything. As months passed by, I learned to accept the things I cannot change. I just changed how I perceived the situation. Furthermore, “Wedding is only the planting but Marriage is the season” – John Bytheway. I may have not experienced the perfect wedding but marrying the person whom I love the most is still the perfect moment.

Written by: Lucille Ann Z. Errojo

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