OMG! It’s been two years and four months to be exact after saying “I DO!” to a person on my dream wedding. Like everyone else, we plan for prosperous and happy marriage life. A married life full of sweetness, laughter’s and giggles every single day being together. “No huge problem we cannot overcome if you love each other!”, as we believe. These are our fantasy before getting married.
Reality check! Adjusting to married life was not easy: from doing household chores, making meals, complicated decisions, money, or up to the simple house rules. It takes an overwhelming time for adjustment.
- I am not good at household chores because I don’t do this during my single days. Big thanks to Automatic Washing Machine because it makes my life easier. Most especially, I thank my husband because instead of complaining to clutter he will just help me cleaning the house.
- Making breakfast, lunch and dinner was a very challenging part of me because I don’t know how to cook. Especially on our first weeks being together, he just laughed in my burnt fried egg, fried hotdog and fried chicken. So I need to exert effort on searching cooking lessons at YouTube.
- Dealing with decision making from small to complicated one must be discussed and agreed by both of us.
- “What’s mine is yours, and what’s yours is mine.” That is how it should be especially in money matters! Spending wise and as a treasurer of the house.
- Communicate most especially after the misunderstanding! After I nag, he just only listens and keeps silent, which makes me get mad more because I am not a fortune teller to guess what is he thinking.
- We are both working hard for our family’s future that makes us busy to the point that sometimes we do not have time to sit down together, complement each other’s works, just laugh on simple things, etc.
These are some of the conflicts we encounter, but we usually stop and take a sit to talk, listen, comfort each other when we realize we are tired of our daily tasks. When we are exhausted, we just recall the power bible verse we learned from our Pre-Cana seminar.
Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.1 corinthians 13:4-7
There is no such a perfect husband and a perfect wife, but there is a perfect marriage wherein Christ is being the center, controlled and complemented by giving up their selves to each other, by being humble to accept the error of wrongs and forgive countless times. The presence of the power words “sorry”, “please”, thank you” and “I love you” can melt the hurt ego which can lead to an undivided heart. Adjusting to married life is a great challenge; be calm, enjoy and grow from it! I love my husband dearly, yet still, I am not a perfect wife but we decided to be a perfect couple for a perfect married life designed by our Almighty God.
We decided to be the perfect couple walking hand in hand through storms of trials and pot of gold of blessings with love, trust and respect to each other.
Rosemarie P. Ranollo