When I first got engaged in an intimate relationship, of course I got scared, who doesn’t? especially if you’re not yet married, and yes I admit, I was on my college days, not a minor but still young, as my parents would say. If I would be pregnant by that time, my parents would have shaved my hair off. So every time I and my boyfriend had a contact we follow the calendar method. We tried to use condoms, but we found out that I was allergic to it, so we didn’t use anything at all. I thought we were just so good at it that’s why I never got pregnant. After graduation, we had a long-distance relationship and by the year 2012, we moved in together and tried so hard to make a family. Our first and second year of living together was quite tough and rough times, all the struggles and hardships; we went through all of that so it’s not a good time to have a child, honestly. It was okay then, but by the third year, people start to ask, “When are you going to have a baby?” or “Why you’re not pregnant yet?” and “Have you been to a doctor?”, “Why not adopt?”, but the worst question I received was “you don’t want to ruin your figure, is that why you don’t want to get pregnant?”
Wow! That is so devastating, they’re judging me! And for that, I became frustrated and depressed. I went to an OB-GYNE and seek medical attention. And there I found out that I have a retroverted uterus, which means my uterus is tipped backward that it aims towards the rectum instead of forward towards the belly. And some other reproductive condition. But the doctor said that I also can get pregnant. And so she gave me dos and don’ts, etc.
Finally, all of my questions and worries are explained. And we have a chance, there’s a possibility, but of course, it’s not going to be easy. Some recommendations are very expensive for us, we cannot afford it. So we decided to follow the natural way.
I was advised to 1) be healthy, proper diet and take vitamins. (I’m underweight and anemic, by the way); 2) avoid stress and pressure; 3) sleep at least 6-8 hours a day, and 4) avoid strenuous activities. And of course, track my fertile days.
It’s been 2 years since I last visited my OB, and no, I don’t have a baby yet but we’re not giving up on that. I’m still working on my weight though. But for now, we’re not putting pressure on ourselves. We are enjoying each other’s company. We’re practicing on our furbaby, the responsibilities and attention it needed. I guess we’re getting good at being parents. If the baby comes I think we are ready. Until then, let’s hope and pray it will be soon.
By: Gilae E. Escobedo