No one ever said that being a single parent would be easy, I am telling you IT IS NOT EASY. Yes! I am one of those single parents. I am a mother of two and I’m raising them alone. Raising a child is a very difficult role. But by doing it alone it is a big challenge in today’s rapidly changing and uncertain world.
I often have the satisfaction of seeing my children show their appreciation for the things I do for them. These are just some of plenty expressions I received from my children. Every time I heard something like this from them it really melts my heart. It gives me chills like I am falling in love again and again.
Let me share with you what has helped me as a single parent to succeed in this difficult role. I hope that these articles will help you not only to succeed in your demanding role but also to do so with joy and contentment. These six articles will be also helpful to families with both parents.
How single parents can
- Get more support
- Communicate more effectively with their children
- Set sound priorities
- Set clear boundaries of behavior
- Establish wholesome values
- Give God a place in their family
SEEK OUT SUPPORT
Look for support from trusted relatives and friends.
Why not make a list of people whom you can call on for help, whether for child care, transportation, home maintenance, or emotional support? And keep the list current. Also see what assistance is available through governmental and nongovernmental agencies.
I am one of Jehovah’s Witnesses, I received much help from my fellow Christians. They are always there to help me. When I’m with them I never felt alone. They boost myself confidence. Giving me an advice through the bible.
BE A GOOD COMMUNICATOR
Try to be available when your child is ready to talk.
As a parent we’ve got to do a lot of work and household chores everyday. But, we are making sure that we have a lot of time in terms of our children.
- Create an environment of open communication.
- Do not tune your children out.
- Be patient.
- Know your children.
- Love [your] children.
“Love [your] children.” (Titus 2:4) Children need love as much as they need food and drink! So regularly reassure them of your love—in word and deed! They, in turn, will feel not only more secure but also more willing to talk with you and obey you.
SET SOUND PRIORITIES
Have at least one meal together each day.
The greatest challenge, for being a single parent we are responsible for providing everything—physically, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually—without the help of a marriage mate.
Decide what is truly important to you and your children, and make these things your priorities.
SET CLEAR BOUNDARIES
Raising children alone is not easy.
- Recognize that “children need structure and schedules to thrive.
- Be firm, and be true to your word. Recognize that “children need structure and schedules to thrive.
- Be consistent .
- Be reasonable; do not discipline in anger.
Consistency, firmness, and reasonableness—along with your good example—will enable you to set boundaries that will make your home a true refuge for your children.
ESTABLISH GOOD MORAL VALUES
Wise parents teach their children the wholesome values found in the Bible.
Peer pressure at school and the waning morality in the world exert a powerful influence on families. To resist this negative influence, children need wholesome values. Otherwise, it is unlikely that they will become responsible, principled, well-mannered adults.
LOOK TO GOD FOR HELP
In today’s increasingly secular world, people in general give little thought to God. Yet, our Creator is interested in us and wants us to succeed in life.
His feelings are well expressed at Isaiah 41:10: “Do not be afraid, for I am with you. . . . I will really help you.”
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by: Dizza Mae Geronimo