written by: Iralyn Robles
“Being friends with your ex shows you two are mature enough to get over the fact that you weren’t meant to be together.”
My ex and I were classmates back when we were in high school. We were not even a thing back then, but we were friends. I am a dorky little girl and he was always the coolest guy at our school. We have different groups of friends. Nobody imagined that we will end up having a relationship together. It started when I was in college. We both attended Universities located in Manila. We were together for 3 years until we call it off.
Many factors affected one’s relationship. Many are tested and ended up with: a successful, happy relationship and a broken one. So let’s focus on the broken ones. Everybody was curious about the realization about: Can we still be friends with our Ex? And I also was a little curious about that because I am not friends with my Ex now.
Reading different articles and blogs led me to write the advantages and disadvantages of being friends with our previous romance:
1. It affects your current/new relationship
This depends solely on how your partner sees your intention of being friends again with your ex. He/She might misinterpret everything and then ending up breaking up with you too. Talk to him/her about your real intentions. Lucky you if you have an understanding beau.
2. Moving on becoming a struggle
Being friends with your ex takes back all the memories you shared when you were still together. Reminiscing every happy event in your life might want you to get back with each other’s arms. And that would create a huge problem with your current romance.
3. Physical Attraction might arise
You can’t deny the fact that you were in love before you call it a quit. There’s a chance that feelings might resurface and you play with fire.
1. Best Pal Ever
Your ex knows you than anybody else. He knows your weaknesses and strengths.
2. Maturity Develops
Being friends with your ex is a sign of a high level of maturity. Being friends with your ex shows you two are mature enough to get over the fact that you weren’t meant to be together.
We all have different views regarding this issue. In my opinion, being friends with my ex is not really a bad idea if we are open about our real intentions. If you are happy with your current relationship now, I think you don’t have to worry about the disadvantages that friendship might bring. I also knew people who ended up being good friends with their exes. And I admire them because they’re one of the stellar individuals who mature perfectly enough to handle such situations.
Tell me about your thoughts.